Life Unboxed

I've lived in Nairobi long enough to feel the pulse of this vibrant city, to breathe in its ambition and its struggles. But lately, a different rhythm has become undeniable, a pervasive hum beneath the surface of daily life. It's the silent, yet thunderous, beat of infidelity, turning Nairobi into what many are now grimly calling "one big bedroom." It's a harsh truth, but one I feel compelled to expose, not to shame, but to awaken us to the very real dangers lurking in the shadows of multiple partners and transactional encounters. You see, it's not just whispers on the wind anymore; it's practically an open secret. Walk into any office building, attend a church service, or even sit in a quiet neighborhood café, and the stories are there, subtly woven into conversations, or starkly displayed in the strained expressions of those carrying the burden of betrayal. I've heard countless tales, some from close friends, others from mere acquaintances, each ...

I used to think I was under spiritual attack. My peace was gone, my focus shattered, and God felt a million miles away. I’d pray, read my Bible, and still feel utterly empty. I blamed everything and everyone, convinced some external force was against me. But then, a harsh truth hit me: I wasn't under spiritual attack; I was just addicted to orgasm. My soul wasn't "confused"—it was drowning in lust. Let me break down what I’ve learned, because maybe, just maybe, you're experiencing something similar. The Hidden Costs of Casual Connections I realized I kept opening "portals" with women who carried their own burdens. Every woman I slept with gave me more than just pleasure; I took on her pain, her trauma, her curses. That’s why my peace vanished. I wasn’t broken—I was bound. It wasn't about love or connection; it was about fleeting satisfaction that left a lasting, negative imprint. The Emptiness of Self-Gratification I’d masturbate daily, ca...

Life has a way of piling on, doesn't it? The relentless demands of work, the gnawing anxieties of financial stress, the constant barrage of minor misunderstandings that chip away at patience, and all those unspoken words that fester in the quiet corners of our minds. Even the strongest relationships can buckle under the weight of it all, leaving both partners feeling utterly drained, not because the love has vanished, but because the energy to nurture it has. This exhaustion is a silent thief, stealing intimacy and replacing it with a weary distance. It's a feeling many couples know intimately. Take Sarah and Mark, for instance. Sarah, a marketing executive, was constantly battling deadlines and demanding clients, while Mark, a small business owner, was wrestling with supply chain issues and dwindling profits. Their evenings, once filled with shared laughter and easy conversation, had become a quiet dance of parallel existences – preparing dinner in silence, scrolling through...

I see it all the time. A man, full of untapped potential, just drifting along. Maybe he's got big dreams, but he's not putting in the work. He's comfortable, perhaps too comfortable, and not truly prioritizing his own strength, his own future. It’s a common story, one that often ends in regret. Take, for instance, a friend of mine, let's call him Alex. Alex is brilliant, a natural leader, but he's always been a bit laid-back. He’d talk about his grand plans, but his actions rarely matched his words. Meanwhile, his partner, Sarah, was becoming increasingly frustrated. She was working extra jobs, picking up the slack, and frankly, she was starting to resent him. I saw the disrespect creeping in, subtle at first, then more obvious. She'd make cutting remarks, and I even heard whispers that she was getting money from other sources, just to keep things afloat. It was heartbreaking to watch, a slow erosion of their relationship, all because Alex wasn't stepping ...

I used to be that guy. You know the one. The one who'd scan a room and immediately gravitate towards the flashiest car, the loudest laugh, or, let's be honest, the most striking face and figure. I chased "looks" because, in my immature mind, they equated to validation, to success, to a life worth showing off. I thought having the "baddest" chick on my arm was the ultimate win. Then I met her . She had it all – the kind of body that stopped traffic, a face that belonged on a magazine cover, and an attitude that screamed confidence. From the outside, we were the perfect couple, the envy of our friends. But behind closed doors, it was a different story. Every disagreement felt like a full-blown war, not a conversation. Every compliment she grudgingly offered was quickly followed by a cutting complaint, a subtle dig that chipped away at my self-esteem. It was exhausting. I was constantly walking on eggshells, trying to anticipate her moods, desperate to avoid ...

Life has a way of piling things on, doesn't it? We accumulate experiences, good and bad, and sometimes the bad ones feel like incredibly heavy bags we're forced to carry alone. I remember a time when I felt like that, burdened by invisible luggage that no one seemed willing to help me with. My bags were packed with depression , deep-seated trust issues , unaddressed trauma , and a whole lot of secrets I was afraid to ever reveal. The weight was crushing, and the thought of anyone seeing what was inside filled me with dread. Then, she entered my life. She had her own scars, of course. Who doesn't? Her struggles included a battle with anxiety and the lingering ache of childhood wounds . Yet, despite her own burdens, her heart was remarkably steady. I braced myself for the usual reaction when I started to, hesitantly, show her the broken parts of myself. I expected the flinch, the uncomfortable silence, the eventual retreat. But it never came. She didn't flinch. She di...

It starts subtly, doesn't it? A whisper of discontent, a flicker of boredom, a dangerous curiosity. You tell yourself it’s harmless, just a little escape from the everyday. Maybe he’s been distant, maybe you feel unseen, maybe the spark has dimmed. Whatever the reason, you stepped across a line, a boundary built on trust and shared vows, and in that moment, the world you knew began to unravel, silently, imperceptibly. Now, in the quiet hours, when the laughter of the day has faded and the children are asleep, the truth hits you with a brutal force: you never knew what you had until it was gone. The comfortable silence he used to fill, the familiar scent of his pillow, the steady rhythm of his breathing beside you – these were the unremarkable pillars of your life, invisible in their constancy. Until they weren't. The Mirror Reflects a Stranger The immediate aftermath is a whirlwind of chaos, a maelstrom of accusations, tears, and shattering glass. But beneath the surface...